Manipulation Games

Manipulation Games

I've been on & off of dating sites. 

As someone over 50, who is level headed, and has their life together, finding someone suitable is very difficult.  

As I am on, I see the same faces month after month. It is apparent that people are broken and in search of someone to repair them. 

I recently read a post that said, "He's just broken". (reply) "There are 8 other women trying to fix him. Don't get sucked into being a part of his constriction crew." 

Men seem to be always 'under construction' —  right! What a poor excuse to evade commitment...

We can all spot a woman who plays the "damsel in distress" act — after all, they don't hide it; but, when it comes to men, they play a different game — while claiming not to be game-players...

By recognizing their tactics, you will be in a better position to recognize whether or not you're in a genuine relationship. 

Here is what to look for:

They Falsely Accuse/Assume

Sure, there are a lot of woman are looking for a 'sugar-daddy', but there are also a lot of women who have their act together — and want genuine love. 

I know of a man who took a woman because she was young & beautiful; then he married her, started a family with her, then beat her down and called her every name under the sun - and that included the term "gold-digger". She suffered terrible verbal & physical abuse —  until she got up the courage and divorced his ass!

I don't believe a man has the right to build his woman up, only to tear her down. Men who behave like this are worthless cowards & don't deserve a good hearted woman.

They Are Unavailable

They’re only interested in you when they want something. When you want to spend time with them, they are unavailable This clearly indicates you are not in a genuine relationship.

They Take Jabs At You

These sarcastic jabs are given in the form of a compliment. We've all heard one (or a hundred); They are unpleasant statements— coming from unpleasant people.

They Get Defensive

I knew of a woman who confronted her husband about his behavior. She had evidence he was cheating on her. He then turned the tables and got all defensive. Then, he started questioning her as though she was guilty of the affair— and claiming that he was the real victim. (Yeah, right!)

They Play With Your Heart

They shower you with affection, then withdraw from you. It's like being on an emotional roller-coaster. When this happens, you should automatically know that you are not in a genuine relationship —and yes, he most likely is seeing someone else.

They Proselytize

This is where they have you questioning your beliefs. My first husband was excellent at this. No matter what I said, he twisted it, then forced that belief onto me. Never let someone who behaves like this cause you to doubt your own judgment— especially when you know the facts! 

This type of game player swears that he doesn't play games. Notice how it's the one at the giving end and not the receiving end who makes these claims? When they are at the giving end, they don't get to decide how their game is received by you! Hold the line good woman!

Changing The Game

Just when you think you’re doing everything right, they change the rules or the game. This is a definite set-up for failure. The only way to win is to lose him!

Guilt-Tripping

I knew of someone who did something great that she was very proud of; the problem was the fellow was not as proud as she was. In fact, he had a BIG problem with it! He expected her to prioritize his feelings over the good that she did. 

This perfectly leads me to the next point— which is:

His Happiness Depends On You!

A personal male friend of mine specifically said, a woman should go the distance to make sure her man is happy. This statement is absolute bullshit! 

Happiness (or misery—that loves company BTW) is a choice. If a man is attracting a miserable woman, there is something within him that is attracting her. 

It's not about finding the perfect person, but being the perfect person — and attracting the same. Remember that!

If you have to tip-toe around someone just to please them, it's not worth your time. You will never be happy and you will cut your feet walking on that broken glass all the time!

Devalue Your Femininity

You know a man does not respect (or protect) your femininity when he says things like, “You’re so sensitive” or “Is it that time of the month?” These comments undermine your God-given femininity. What's worse is they are designed to increase your need for his approval. When you have to constantly work for it, it's time to approve of yourself—and leave!

The Silent Treatment

They suddenly stop talking to you when things don’t go their way. This is a deliberate tactic to make you doubt yourself and question what you did wrong. You did nothing good woman — remember that!

In Conclusion

Manipulation games are not easy for women to spot — but it can place your confidence 'under attack'; that's your cue to question his character, not your own integrity.

When you question the relationship, it is because it's pretty-much over. Don't try to change him —unless you are willing to live a lifetime of heartache.