The Escapist


It's common when you are under stress to visit your "happy place" — but this is only a temporary measure to get you over a slump—or get you through a public speaking event.

Staying in your fantasy world will interfere with your relationships, responsibilities and mental well-being. You will know if you are at risk if you:

1) repeat failures

2) avoid responsibility

3) have no team-working skills

4) are unreliable/unavailable

5) work on projects that don't matter (pay)

6) lie about achievements

7) pull others into your fantasy world

8) unable to leave your fantasy world


(True story) I know of someone who robbed his employer of thousands of dollars worth of material to complete a house he was having built.

After the attempt to be served (sued—he lost everything), he fled across the country, then became a church pastor—a year later!

He remained the same person on the inside, but took on a new identity to suit how he wanted to be esteemed. (It is unfortunate that some can be so pathological that they assume roles/characters to build their false reality. They are wolves in sheep's clothing!)

When he was called out on his character, his reaction was demonic (no other way to describe it). It ruined many relationships (his own daughter) as well as his character—permanently! (Herein lies a person who went too far.)


You may be aware of this quote "Habits are the compound interest of self-improvement."

There are 5 specific laws to this:

1) Make them about your core values: Without applying core values (morale) you will remain the same. Having high morale sets the standard that upholds you.

2) Make it obvious: We are triggered to a specific behavior; understanding this makes us aware of what we need to change.

3) Make it attractive: What we crave is what motivates us. If what you are craving is unhealthy, don't do it! Be motivated by what you want to accomplish, not by how you want to be seen.

4) Make it easy: Doing a major change will be overwhelming. Start small by making small amends. You will feel good about yourself; this will motivate you to keep going!

5) Make it satisfying: As you demonstrate good habits, you begin to reap the benefits — and life changes for the better.

We live in a world of constant change — it's up to you to be flexible and grow from within.



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